Your friend is doing keto and looking awesome.
Your cousin did HCG last year and lost a ton of weight.
And Suzy from Accounting won't stop talking about points.
I get it. The pressure is ON!
Listen, I’ve counted tens of thousands of calories, weighed and measured countless pounds of food, packed up little colored containers, and white knuckled it through hours of hunger with the best of 'em.
I used to be an Expert Dieter.
In fact, if they gave out awards for “Dieting Stick-to-it-iveness,” I would sweep.
And I got results.
Until I didn’t.
Long story short, after two decades of mastering every diet under the sun, reading book after book on the subject, using myself as a test case for all the latest, most cutting edge nutritional science (and a lotta bunk too), and still gaining and losing the same thirty-plus pounds over and over again, I finally learned a life changing lesson:
Diets don’t work.
Sustainable habits do.
The dieting cycle started in my twenties. I had gained weight and was gently encouraged (by well meaning people) to "get some of that weight off."
So I started dieting.
By my late thirties, I had a history of losing, and re-gaining the same 30-40 pounds over and over again. It's the same old story you've heard a million times. Diet. Lose weight. Get sick of dieting. Gain it all back plus some.
Like many people, my initial motivation to diet was to lose weight. But I also wanted to improve my life and be "healthy." And I thought weight loss would do that.
Over the years I tried it all. I juiced, ate cabbage soup and grapefruit, health-ified my recipes, signed up for various weight loss programs, went to group meetings, tracked my food, read books, made long lists of what to eat, when to eat it, and when not to.
I had dieting down to a science!
And for a while, all was well and good.
Until it wasn’t.
Initially, the weight would come off. But the constant pre-occupation with weighing, measuring, counting, tracking and restricting wore thin.
And, more importantly, it wasn't "fixing" anything.
Yes, I lost weight, but I still hadn't learned to truly care for myself in a holistic way.
By the time the photo below was taken, I was 38, back at an all-time high with my weight, recovering from post-partum depression, and at an all time low with my self-worth and eating habits.
I was miserable and I wanted a change. I needed a change. I knew from my past experience that I COULD lose weight through dieting.
And that's exactly what I did.
I hopped right back on that diet-train and chugged hard.
But a funny thing happened.
The more weight I lost, the harder I dieted. And the harder I dieted, the more fixated on dieting I became.
The DIET was becoming a problem unto itself!
My body was changing, but my mental health was still suffering.
THEN THE REAL WORK BEGAN
First, I had to unpack a lot of emotional baggage and confront my use of both food AND dieting as a means to solve some deeper issues.
Next, I realized that I needed to step back and evaluate the truth about nutrition and exercise, and find a permanent solution. One that would allow me to maintain a healthy weight, strong body, AND a healthy mind.
I thought about all the different tricks, methods, programs, books, and college classes that I had learned from over the years.
I wondered, "What do all these diets have in common? What is the underlying reason that they work? And, yet, why do they ultimately fail?"
I found the answers. Here's what I did with that knowledge:
I quit dieting and committed to following flexible, sound nutritional principles that I can use for life.
Instead of tracking every macro and weighing my food, I focused on eating mostly whole, plant based foods, and stopped when I was full.
Instead of trying to out-run my diet, I reduced my exercise volume and prioritized effective workouts and daily walking.
Instead of worrying about what my friends were doing to lose weight and get fit, I started paying attention to what was working for ME.
I made peace with food, the scale, and my body.
And it worked!
Once I discovered the underlying habits and behaviors that were leading to results, I was able to do them CONSISTENTLY.
I stopped turning to food and dieting as a solution to life's problems, and instead embraced healthy eating and movement as a way to celebrate my life.
I fell in love with my life, my food, and my body.
I loved the way this new mindset felt. This change, this shift in my thinking allowed me to completely break free from dieting and focus on living my best life.
I have maintained a sixty-pound weight loss for over four years.
My metabolism is flexible.
My weight is stable.
I enjoy all foods including pizza, wine, chocolate, pasta and loads of whole, nutrient dense foods.
I eat dessert without saying "I shouldn't be having this."
I am no longer “on” or “off” my plan.
I no longer over-exercise to burn off calories or justify overeating.
I no longer live in a cycle of deprivation and overeating.
And, I lost the "last ten pounds." Which was wasn't even a goal!
I stopped dieting, and started living. And I LOVE my life this way!
There isn’t enough money in the world to get me to go on another diet.
I only wish I had figured that out sooner.
I became a Personal Trainer and Fitness Nutrition Specialist so that I could help other women find food freedom and joy in their lives, as I have.
It is possible.
Thank you for reading. I look forward to being a resource to you on your health journey.
CLICK HERE FOR A FREE NUTRITION CONSULTATION